How much bad behavior are you willing to put up with? A Reddit user has reached her official breaking point when it comes to her step-sister’s children. She took to IATA forum to explain why she decided to lock the family out of her house – and ask if it was justified.
“My husband’s older sister is a mother of three children aged 9, 8 and 6”, the user began. “SIL allows a lot of behavior that can be quite destructive or messy from his children, which is fine in his own home, but at least in mine, I don’t like that. My husband told her before she had to clarify that our house rules are different from hers, but she rejected it. “
Some of these behaviors include kicking a ball indoors, breaking possessions multiple times, bouncing on furniture with shoes, and emptying the contents of storage containers on the floor.
“My husband and I both stepped in and asked them not to and the response we get is ‘you’re not our mom/dad,'” she wrote. “…We said no shoes inside and they flat out said no. They also got other balls when we take them while they play with them indoors. They are the same with me. The oldest even told FIL to fuck off when he corrected them. She decided that she no longer wanted to support these children. If her husband is home, he can handle their behavior, but if she is home alone, they don’t come in.
“SIL attempted to come with the kids while my husband was away for work,” the user wrote. “I told her she was not allowed in. I told her to speak to my husband and find out when he is home and she can visit him if he allows it.”
Now the SIL is really crazy. “AITA? the user asked.
People flocked to the comments section to let the original poster know that she made the right decision. Many, many commenters reinforced the idea of boundaries and said they would be done with visiting these family members, period.
“What a complete and utter failure of parenting to allow these kids to run amok and disrespect each other’s homes,” one person wrote. “It’s their aunt and uncle and they’re allowed to tell their uncle to ‘fuck you’. They’ll end up being allowed adults who don’t believe they have to respect anyone. I would ban them completely from home.
Another person added that they had had an equally frustrating experience. “We have had to abandon very close friends because of this type of destructive disrespectful behavior from their children. It wasn’t fair to us, our home, or our children that theirs had no boundaries for acceptable behavior,” the user wrote. “One time we were packing to leave the house and they walked up our street and stopped to say hello. Their children rushed into our house as my husband tried to deny them entry. They jumped on children’s beds with dirty shoes and broke a toy in two minutes flat. Their father ignored their cries and our protests that it was not the right time.
Then there was the commentary which pretty much summed it all up. “NTA. your house, your rules. if SIL and the kids can’t respect that, they can’t visit…boundaries are beautiful things,” one Reddit user concluded.
How would you react if family members acted destructively in your home?
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