Mom-to-be defended for refusing cousin’s pregnancy announcement

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Members of a popular internet forum have banded together in support of an expectant mother who has opened up about how her cousin and aunt brazenly tried to commandeer her baby shower.

In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/rainbowbaby2022 (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said his cousin learned she was also pregnant weeks before the celebration and detailed the stormy consequences of their attempt. to support OP’s special day.

Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for not allowing my cousin to announce her pregnancy at my baby shower for my rainbow baby?” Publish received over 5,000 votes and 1,000 comments in the last eleven hours.

Writing that it took her and her husband years to get pregnant, the original poster said she was “very excited” to welcome her first child and noted that her mother was all just as excited, if not more so.

“She’s been planning our baby shower and decorating for months,” OP wrote. “She was the biggest help.”

While planning her baby shower, however, the original poster said her cousin learned she was also pregnant and asked to break the news at the shower. The original poster said she quickly ended that plan, but explained how tensions came to a head on the day of the celebration.

“Last Saturday was my baby shower!” OP started. “It was everything I expected.”

“When it was time for us to eat my cake, my aunt said ‘wait, wait everyone’ and got out in her car,” OP continued. “That’s when I knew something was wrong.”

“My mom and I are following her outside, and my aunt decided to bring a cake announcing my cousin’s pregnancy and presents for my cousin,” OP added.

After the shocking reveal of her aunt’s cake, the original poster said all hell broke loose.

“My aunt started having a fit shouting ‘it’s a baby shower, it’s for the babies. My cousin is having a baby too, so this day is for her!’ OP wrote. “My cousin now joins in the shouting and says how pissed she is that it’s all still about me.”

“They kept screaming, so they got kicked out by recreation center security, and half of our family was upset that I wouldn’t let them spend a while in my shower, so they left too,” continued OP. “Now everyone is bashing my mom, myself and my rainbow baby on Facebook, group family texts, anything at all. »

Like proposing on someone else’s wedding day, piggybacking on another expectant mother’s baby shower with a pregnancy announcement is generally frowned upon.

On several occasions, women who recently found out they were pregnant have visited the website for parents baby center ask the question: should I make the announcement at an event specifically intended to celebrate the pregnancy of a loved one?

In each case, BabyCenter users were adamant that announcing such big news at an event like a baby shower is disrespectful and almost guaranteed to cause trouble with the mother-to-be who was supposed to be the center of her life. ‘Warning.

“If a friend of mine did this I would feel hurt and wonder why she couldn’t have chosen a different time,” one user wrote in response to a woman asking if she should announce her pregnancy in the shower of her best friend.

“Don’t be selfish and steal your friend’s day,” the user continued. “Would you announce an engagement at someone’s wedding reception? TACKY.”

Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole were quick to defend a pregnant woman who stopped her cousin from announcing her pregnancy at a long-awaited baby shower.
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Throughout the comments section of the viral post, Redditors echoed that sentiment and defended the original poster and her mother for confronting her cousin and aunt in such a hostile manner.

“[Not the a**hole]“, wrote Redditor u/mooseshart in the main comment of the post, which received nearly 10,000 votes. “Absolutely [not the a**hole].”

“It was YOUR day, which you’ve been trying to make possible for YEARS,” they continued. “If she wanted to steal the show, she should have spent the money, time and effort on her own…you and your mom are 100 [percent] in the law.”

Redditor u/URSmarterThanILook, whose comment received more than 5,000 votes, offered a deadpan solution to the conflict between the original poster and its cousin.

“Ask your aunt why she doesn’t love her daughter enough to throw her own shower like your mom did for you,” they wrote.

“Why doesn’t your aunt think her daughter should have her own special day to celebrate? That’s the weirdest part to me,” Redditor u/No-Policy-4095 added. “You have to share, but can’t she see that she’s forcing her daughter to share too?”

In a separate comment, which received nearly 1,000 votes, Redditor u/laude_nam said the original poster’s cousin and mother should have listened when OP told them not to announce the pregnancy at her baby shower. , and called the rest of his family. also for their behavior.

“When will people realize that it is inappropriate to co-opt someone else’s celebration to make important announcements,” they wrote. “To all of you who call you and your mom this wasn’t a celebration they planned for their milestone and if someone did it to them they would be upset.”