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Ashley Tisdale isn’t afraid to admit that motherhood has upset her. In interviews and on her social media platforms, the actress and singer has been refreshingly candid about the joys and challenges of her latest role – being a mom to daughter Jupiter Iris French, now 1 – and how it has turned out. had an impact on his own mental health.
The musical high school The star recently spoke to SheKnows at the launch event for goodnest, the rechargeable baby care brand she’s partnered with — along with new parent Tan France — as part of her partner collective, or ” nest”. Tisdale was in touch with the brand through her wellness blog, Frenchand says that once she tried productsavailable exclusively online and at Targetassociating with the brand was “a no-brainer”.
“Seeing what companies managed to do for babies back then is just insane to me,” she says. “And I’m so thankful that there are companies doing that, [making] ecological and clean products. We don’t have to worry about that.
Keep reading to learn more about what Tisdale had to say about the importance of self-care, sustainability, and motherhood expectations:
SK: You talked a lot about the importance of self-care for your mental health. How can you prioritize this, now that you’re a mom?
Ashley Tisdale: It’s really a matter of timing. For me, the first thing I do is wake up with Jupiter, feed her, and then her first nap is when I go into my meditation. Meditation just helps calm the mind and my anxiety. I really need to create these little rituals for myself, so when she falls asleep, it’s like, “Okay, cool, now I can have some time to myself.”
I see moms again and again forgetting themselves. And I think it’s just important to know that your baby is happy when you’re happy. I never wanted to put my anxiety on my child. So, for me, it’s like, “Okay, how can I be the best mom?” And that’s how I can do that — so I don’t share that anxiety with her.
SK: You also openly stated that you don’t recognize your postpartum body and feel inadequate as a mother. (Thank you!) How are you feeling right now?
TO: I definitely feel much better. I was just texting someone, and I was like, ‘I think there’s a period of grieving your old self that you’re going through, that nobody really tells you about. You will never be the same person again. And it’s amazing, it’s awesome because you have this beautiful baby you get to… I mean, she brightens my day. But there’s that period where you have to be like, “Okay, well, that was the past.” And it’s a life-changing thing.
There’s a lot of things that my mom friends haven’t shared with me, that I’m like, “What, why don’t you share this with me?” I created a platform, Frenshe – which is all about wellness and cleaner living and my mental health journey – and I like to be very real about it and talk about these things. The fact that I only learned a fourth trimester two weeks before having a baby is crazy. My friend said to me, “Just so you know, the fourth trimester is the hardest. I was like, “What’s the fourth trimester?! I’ve never heard of that!”
SK: You say to yourself, “Wait, the hardest part is yet to come? »
TO: I was like, “Oh my God.” The job is easy compared to whatever you’re going through after. It’s so true. I think it’s important to be real and honest and to educate people. Because when you’re aware and you know those things, you can say, “Oh, okay, that’s something everybody goes through,” instead of feeling alone.
SK: Speaking of being open and vulnerable, especially on social media, it can invite mother-shaming. Have you experienced this?
TO: I mean, honestly, I didn’t, just because I don’t really dive very deep into the comments!
SK: Let’s talk about goodnest. Which of the products is your favorite?
TO: I’m obsessed with magic wash. We [were] at a hotel in Malibu, not far from our house, and I thought to myself, “I don’t think we should give him a bath. And thank goodness we had her in the diaper bag because she had pasta that night and it was everywhere. It just saved us in that moment, and I think that’s the most brilliant thing.
SK: What other products do you like, either for yourself or for Jupiter?
TO: I mean, I’m obsessed with Coterie diapers. That’s all we used. They are amazing. We’ve never had a leak, which I know is a big deal. And then, for my part, I am obsessed with candles. I love a good bath salt, to create my little evening ritual. And the hand lotion – that’s a great thing. I wash my hands a lot, obviously, having a baby, but also being in this pandemic, my hands are drying out a lot. So hand lotion – I love it Aesop and Barbara Sturm – always saves me.
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