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8 tips from a pediatrician for better parenting in the Nepalese context

8 tips from a pediatrician for better parenting in the Nepalese context

Parenthood is one of the most difficult tasks a person has. It is more difficult in the context of Nepal.

In Nepal, many women marry during their teenage years. Lack of education and poverty, among others, are the main reasons for early marriage in Nepal. Because being a mother is no joke, these couples suffer from parenting their children.

Being a parent carries a great responsibility in shaping the future of your children. Just as how you water young plants determines the fruit they will bear, how you instill good character and morale determines your child’s future. Children look to their parents for guidance and teaching. So you have a super power to influence what becomes of the child.

Therefore, here are some tips for better parenting in the context of Nepal.

1. Use clear sentences

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It is helpful for better parenting if we give the messages in clear and simple words and sentences. They have poor comprehension and retention skills and therefore do not understand complex sentences with difficult meanings. So we should give our instructions to the point. Children should be told what to do and what not to do. “Be a good boy” is a nice lesson, but it’s unclear what this kid should do, we can say “help her clean the room” instead. Positive rules are generally better than negative rules because they positively guide your child’s behavior. For example, “Please close the door” is better than “Don’t leave the door open.”

2. Appreciate them for their good work

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We adults crave praise and nothing satisfies our soul except the good words people say to us, and so do children. Don’t wait for your child to do something wrong. There are a lot of things they do well. Take every opportunity to appreciate the things they correct and praise them wholeheartedly. As a parenting tool, it encourages them to focus on more positive things and improve themselves. Nothing can change a child’s behavior than the humble praise we give him for the good things he has done.

3. Teach them self-correction

Children need to know the consequences of their inappropriate and unacceptable actions. If a child spills milk during a tantrum, parents can give them a rag and teach them how to clean up the mess. It teaches them self-control in the future. Teaching good behaviors while parenting can be difficult at first. But remember to be consistent with your rules and instructions and over time they will learn to do it on their own. It is always easier to prevent bad behavior than to correct a problem. Don’t act out of anger, frustration or worry because it hurts children’s feelings.

4. Show them you care and listen

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You have to guide and direct them, but don’t become a boss. You cannot promote good behavior by being an oppressor. Children are our mirrors; they reflect how we treat them. If we behave rudely towards them, chances are they will show the same behavior towards others as well.

Parenting isn’t about becoming a boss and commanding orders. Listen to your children talk about their concerns without being judgmental. Show them you care and communicate with them. Humans long for someone who listens to their doubts and fears. It creates a bond that your child will remember throughout their life. Give some space to just listen to them, you can make suggestions if you think it’s necessary; it shows them how much you value them in your life. It will work wonders later.

5. Teach them problem-solving skills

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Children fight more than adults. Conflict resolution can be taught to children while they are parents without scolding or punishing them. Punishing children teaches your child that it’s okay to hurt someone to solve a problem. This creates more violence and misconduct. It helps to teach them problem-solving skills that will foster discipline and intellect.

6. Teach them to sense other people’s feelings

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Children are still growing up and they don’t have a great idea of ​​the consequences of their actions and how they might hurt others. So while they’re busy with their tantrums, they don’t care how the other person might feel because of their behaviors. And if you’re a reactive parent, you can hurt those little kids with your harsh words and punishments or other similar ways of parenting. Even if your intentions are good, you will end up hurting them. They become sensitive and afraid of you and will know that being tough, angry and irritated will help them achieve the things they wanted and prevent the things they don’t want. This is how we taught our children to use violence to get what they wanted. This means they don’t understand crisis management and problem solving skills.

So, suppose if you are bothered by your child’s tantrum, in a positive way of parenting, show him that his act has created a disruption in your work. Tell them their act doesn’t make you feel good in a polite way. Slowly they begin to understand the consequences of their actions and begin to understand the feelings of others through their actions.

Be human, show them your feelings. Share it with them. Apologize for your actions. A child who never hears you apologize will not understand the value of apologizing to others.

7. Become their role model

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Children learn as much from what you do as from what you say. You must exhibit good behaviors to teach children good behaviors. Children watch how you treat them and others. They copy what you do more than what you say.

Suppose you tell your children not to be rude to others, but you behave rudely to others, your children are unlikely to follow you. How parents deal with stress says a lot about how children deal with stress later on. It is therefore important to be calm, composed and not to be disturbed by emotions when you are a parent.

8. Be human

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Maintain a sense of humor while you practice parenting. Reward good behavior. Be kind but firm. Remember to tell your child that the behavior was wrong but the child is not wrong. Give your child the chance to succeed by playing games. Give your child responsibility and consequences. Teach them the things you weren’t taught as a child.

Show them that there are more unfortunate people than them. This will teach them the value of love and the feeling of belonging to others. Love is the only healing force in this world. Help them rekindle love for others and that’s how the world becomes a better place. There is nothing in this world that love cannot change. Help them make this planet a better place to live. It only starts with you.

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